Bullying is….
A
person is being bullied or victimized when he or she is exposed,
repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more
persons.
(OLWEUS, 1991)
Conflict is
a normal part of growing up. Normal conflict may require some adult
assistance in resolving issues, but typically teens learn how to work
out their differences on their own.
Bullying is different because it involves danger of someone being physically or emotionally hurt.
Look over the chart. Identify examples of normal conflict vs. bullying.
NORMAL PEER CONFLICT
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BULLYING
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Equal power or friends
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Imbalance of power, not friends
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Happens occasionally
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Repeated negative actions
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Accidental
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Purposeful
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Not serious
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Serious with threat of physical or emotional harm
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Equal emotional reaction
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Strong emotional reaction from victim and little or not emotional reaction from bully
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Not seeking power or attention
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Seeking power, control or material things
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Not trying to get something
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Attempt to gain material things or power
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Remorse-will take responsibility
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No remorse-blames victim
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Efforts to solve the problem
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No effort to solve problem
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Friendly Teasing vs. Hurtful Teasing
We have talked about all the different kinds of bullying. In middle school, two forms of bullying in particular-verbal aggression in the form of teasing and sexual harassment- get trickier and more complicated. Let’s look at both….
FRIENDLY TEASING VERSES HURTFUL TEASING
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Equal power; friends vs. Imbalance of power;
Not friends
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Neutral topic vs. Sensitive topic
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Playful purpose vs. Purpose to upset
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Purpose is to include vs. Purpose is to exclude
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Funny vs. Sarcastic
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